How To Rebuild Your Trust In Yourself And Others

23rd OF July 2011

By Bella Gill; psychic, medium and healer
www.belgill.com

Sometimes we are merrily heading down the wrong path in our lives, and perhaps not in tune with ourselves enough to notice this. I've often convinced myself that I was going the right way in my life, even though my gut feeling was saying otherwise, and before you know it you get tipped upside down and inside out by something - you suddenly get fired, your boyfriend tells you he's leaving or you fall out with your best friend.

First comes the shock, (how did this happen) then the rejection, (I cant believe someone would do this to me), and although it’s uncomfortable, feel it, sit with it and acknowledge that it’s painful to feel rejected, because it is, but know that the longer you hang onto it, the less chance you have of seeing the positives of the experience and moving forward. Think back over the situation that ended and I guarantee you will have been unhappy at some point along the way, (or maybe the whole way!!) at which time you would have been sending out thoughts to the universe with the heading "I’m not happy with this!!!”. So you were offered a helping hand, the way it arrived probably felt like crap and shocked the pants right off you, it most likely has damaged your trust or bruised your ego, perhaps all of these things, but keep in mind, something wasn’t working, either for you or the other person. Although it’s painful and difficult to face up to this, it’s a quicker way to find some resolution within yourself. We all want to blame someone or something else, and sometimes it isn’t our fault, but at the end of the day the only way to feel better as soon as possible is to re-empower yourself by seeing the lesson in the experience and using it as an opportunity to realign within yourself, and step back onto your own path. Ask yourself honestly, “Were really getting everything you wanted from the situation?”, chances are you weren’t!

Think about the ways in which this change will offer you new opportunities to have new experiences, see it as a blessing in disguise (because a bit further down the line you will see that it really is!!) and focus on what’s before you instead of staying stuck with what happened. Sometimes there are no answers for why things end, they just do, and staying in the cycle of thinking about why it happened will drain your energy and block you from being open to other doors that will open around you. Speak and think positively about yourself, you are not your ego, and though it may have been dented, it will recover. TRUST that what has left your life will be replaced with something better. If you’re really stuck, see a Healer/Therapist/ Counselor, there is always help available. Remind yourself that although what happened was out of your control, getting back on track is completely within your control. Use whatever techniques you can to remind yourself on a daily basis that you’re powerful, and you WILL come back from this, bigger and better than ever.

Blessings and love
Bella. X