Learn To Love Yourself

21st OF March 2011

By Bella Gill; psychic, medium and healer
www.belgill.com

Perhaps you're between jobs and all your friends are at work. Maybe all your friends have babies and you don't. Perhaps everyone seems to have a boyfriend or a husband and you're single. How do you cope with being alone, when you feel like the 'odd one out'?

'Table for one please' . . . have you ever tried it? A friend of mine was recently telling me how much she loves dining alone in restaurants, how she loves to take that time for herself, to enjoy the space of being alone doing something she thoroughly enjoys.

I love that. It is an empowering act, especially to those who feel frozen with fear by the very idea of going anywhere alone.

This brings us to the topic of 'alone'. What is it that makes us feel like the odd one out if we are in a different place to those around us?

Why do we suddenly feel a sense of disconnection if we are treading a different path? Or more importantly, WHY do we judge ourselves as the 'odd one out'?

I believe it comes back to the kind of relationship you are having with yourself. If you love your own company chances are you will be at ease with being 'the odd one out' or dining by yourself. If you are judging yourself and your life compared to other people around you, then yes, you're going to shrink back and feel unworthy.

No-one can do your life better than you! If you are feeling disconnected look at why and in what area of your life that is happening.

Ask yourself honestly what it is that you want in order to feel connected with your own dreams again, then move towards what that is.

Take some time today to give yourself credit for where you are. It may be a very different place to your friends and family, but it is your path, where you are meant to be in your life right now.

I think Dr Seuss had it right when he said 'Today you are you, that is truer than true, there is no-one alive who is you-er than you'. . . which makes us all unique, and wonderful.

Blessings to you.

Bella XXOO