Psychic And Healer Bella Gill On Moving On From Bad Habits And Bad Behaviour

29th OF September 2011

By Bella Gill; psychic, medium and healer
www.belgill.com

Bad habits and bad behaviour can hold us back in life and cause issues with everything from our career to our relationships to our general happiness. Is it possible to change? How do we start making changes? Should we ask for help?

I’m working on some of my own bad habits at the moment, and the first thing I've started doing is taking the word BAD out of them. When we make something bad, doing it makes us feel guilty, and I find that if I feel guilty I’m more inclined to keep the ball rolling with negative behaviours. Giving power to the negative aspects of something is always going to make you feel worse, so instead of beating yourself up over it, be constructive, use it as an opportunity to find out more about yourself. Looking at the habit/behaviour from this point of view will give you more freedom to change it.

The first step is beginning to take notice of what sets off the habit/behaviour. We generally go there as a reaction to something so starting to understand the triggers can give us the opportunity to change the reaction.

Once you know what your triggers are you have more power about the way you will choose to handle them.

Now the tricky bit, how will you respond differently? It’s fine to know you have to change your behaviour, but actually doing it?...help!

I procrastinate. It’s one of my habits, just ask the team here at RESCU how often Bella gets her blog in on time. Ok, I usually get there by deadline, but it’s a habit of mine to leave it to the last minute, so instead of beating myself up about it, I can change the behaviour. So this means that next month, instead of leaving my blog till the last minute, I write it as soon as I get my brief and hey presto, I’ve changed a habit! (I’m going to be held accountable here!).

It’s also really important to keep a sense of humour about it all, lighten up on yourself. The minute you can laugh about it you will start to feel how everything starts moving again and you don’t feel so locked in or stuck. They are just behaviours, and yes they can be changed. It may take time, you might have been working at it for the long term, but you will see results, sooner or later you will. If you feel like you’re not making headway, get help! I love therapy, I think it’s one of the most self-loving things you can do, and at the end of the day none of us are perfect. Striving for perfection is exhausting, life isn’t perfect, nature isn’t perfect and that’s where the beauty is.

So look at your habits and behaviours as teachers, that’s all they are, helping you to become who you really want to be. If the habit worked for you, then you wouldn’t know any better, so say "thanks" for showing you what you no longer want in your life. Some changes are big, you may need to take big leaps, remember that you’re not alone, there is always help, but you have to ask and then trust. It’s all in divine order, I promise!

Big blessings to you all.

Bella. X